Emotionally too far?

This morning I came across an interesting article on social media (primarily Facebook) and the trend toward emotional relationships that violate or chip away at marriages and proper relationship.

The article was written by a sex columnist so it is not a treatise on faith in relationships but raises important questions and gives some suggestions for avoiding improper relationships. Here is a taste:

“The instant gratification of Facebook and other social networks stimulates reward centers in the brain – and it’s easy to find oneself craving the quick hit of a connection or lamenting its absence. Even without the senses driving attraction, the mind goes into overdrive and imagines that this is the perfect person and the perfect relationship.

Soon, a person may feel like an online friend “knows” him or her better than a partner does. People may feel freer to explore other parts of themselves, while real life (and a real relationship) feels stifling. This artificial sense of intimacy can begin to consume a person’s thoughts, which becomes all the more exciting because it’s a secret. Most people don’t set out to have “e-motional” affairs, and that’s one of the dangers of social networks like Facebook.”

Read the whole thing here.

I don’t think this article should be used as evidence as to why we must not participate in social media but rather as a warning for all of us (married and single, Christian and none) to guard ourselves from inappropriate relationships and connection.


  1. I agree that this can be a problem. However, I think that people are finding real intimacy online, not artificial intimacy. There are some ways in which an online relationship cannot be as emotionally intimate as a face-to-face one, as physical presence affects connectedness, but an online relationship that has depth is actually more real and more intimate than a superficial face-to-face relationship.


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